TriniGringo: Decisions Decisions

This coming November would mark the 4th year Lee and I have been together. Just last night we were saying how time has flown by, and it seems like only yesterday we met eachother. We've been extremely happy with eachother and there's no doubt in our minds that "This is IT..they are 'D' ONE!!!" There is doubt however, on the time frame to step this relationship up to the next level. Since inception, Lee would declare that we're on the 5 year plan, and I was fine with that. I'd skin teeth with him and play along with his little game. Then came September 23, 2008. I turned 26 and did a little backwards math. Women's "deadline" for having kids is 35 and I want to have 2 kids, 2 years apart. That means I should have my 1st child at 30/31. I want to be married 2-3 years prior to kids so that means I should get married at 28. It takes a year to plan a wedding, so I should get engaged at 27 right? To make a long story short, we're off Lee's plan and on MY timeframe now.

Some might think I'm forcing him. I'm not forcing him. I told him my future is with him, and either he's on board or not. I'm not going to be a forever girlfriend, or a common law wife and after 4 years of this charade - ITS TIME TO BUCKLE DOWN MISTER. Don't waste my time because I'm defintately not getting any younger and if there's no doubt in eachother's mind that we're the one for eachother - the next logical step would be to carry forth. And that's where we are now.

It is my nature to talk about everything and a life changing event such as getting engaged is not one to be taken lightly. We believe that both parties must be emotionally, financially, and logically available before a proposal should be made. It dosen't make sense to accept a proposal and then work on the details...what if you can't work out the details? It won't be too late, but alot would have been invested emotionally with an engagement. So much has to be discussed first; the future living arrangments, financials, timeframes, ring expectations, emotions to mention a few.

We've even started looking for rings. Its fun to try them on, see the different styles, and get a feel of my likes and dislikes. My ideal ideal ring lays in the showcases at Tiffanys! Its a round brillant stone, Tiffany setting, with a channel set band. Words can't describe how I feel when I put that ring on. I asked the sales person "Is it the lights in here that make the ring shine like that, because I know you guys have alot of tricks!" He didn't say a thing. He covered the ring and I gasped. It was like a spot light was still on it. I've never felt more love for one object than this ring! Then we saw the price tag! The end..gave the nice man back his ring..and ran for Zales!!!

My engagement is not a short term goal. Alot has to be done/said before Lee falls to one knee and I accept. I have though given him a year..give or take a few months to do the deed if all goes well. Its June 2009 right now...the countdown begins!